... I bore easily and quietly, without being painfully unbearable pain, and ill-treatment medical staff. Beside me was a wonderful doctor and an excellent midwife, who for a few hours were the most near and dear people. I infinitely believed them, and they did not disappoint me. At four o'clock in the morning world flashed bright colors - light appeared on my girl. Since then, my existence has been narrowed to the size of a small dvuhkilogrammovogo lumps.
Do not worry, I'm with you
Five days after giving birth, I spent in hospital. This is a special world, it's not like other medical institution, is permeated by pain and suffering. In maternity wards, all subordinated to the joyful anticipation of the new man. And for this you can be patient and never-ending torment of fights, and stabbing pain anxious out a new life. Under the supervision of doctors and midwives, I quickly mastered the basics of a young mother. Studied to feed, diaper, wipe the numerous folds of her newborn a miracle.
When the day came to an extract, surrounded by family and friends, I crossed the threshold of a comfortable maternity hospital and was in life, where, until recently, felt quite comfortable and confident. Now the outside world collapsed on me the whole weight of the many horrors and fears. Everywhere haunted danger, I hated the car, hated the people who are hatching, as it seemed to me, evil thoughts, afraid to watch television, full of blood and violence. I was afraid of, fear, confident settled in my heart. "When will it end?" - I asked a psychologist. "Never, - he said confidently - do not want to be afraid - do not get children. 'll Have to learn to live with it.
Board of Psychologist:
Learn how to get along with your fears is not easy. The nature of fear, even experienced analysts often can not decipher. Nevertheless, some recipes eating
- Do not think about the future, if you are sensitive and impressionable person, you will certainly primereschatsya all sorts of horrors, and that's no guarantee that you will happen, but the possibility of this fairly pat nerves. Live by this, think about what is, deal with current affairs, and their newly-made mother a lot;
- Careful not never hurt, but do not see the opposite in every bandit and monster. Fortunately, people are mostly quite normal, although it has some drawbacks. If you're afraid of everyone, then the child will convey this fear, which will fall on the child's psyche neuroses and complexes. Remember: your job is to teach children to distinguish right from wrong, and not shy away from all moving objects;
- Surround yourself with positive people and information. Given the plethora of blood media, it is not so easy to do, but in the end you do not have to watch TV and read all the press. Limit or completely eliminate contact with people inclined to report bad news. There is a level interlocutors who talk only to build around all the horrors and passions. Let then no wonder that they do not want to communicate.
Day Su
First day at home. I made a morning toilet, feed, walk, put him to sleep. Wash, fed, stroked, swim, lulled ... Day came to an end, falling over with fatigue, I fell asleep, barely touching the pillow, and two hours later, a baby crying tore me from the sweet embrace of Morpheus. It seemed that everything is about to end and life will go down again in the usual (prenatal) track. In this delusion, I stayed for four days, until, hanging diapers, until I suddenly not clearly realized that my life now firmly and permanently painted on the regime of walking - feeding.
I can not say that to get used to this fact, it was easy. Moreover, very disappointing loss of mobility (not go where and when you want) and it is impossible to schedule (the child must destroy all plans). A few days faithfully fulfilling maternal duties, I was in a despondent over the loss of former freedom.
But soon got used to the new role and even experienced the inexplicable pleasure of constant care and communication with your child. I did not want to go anywhere and see anyone. We have been together with my girl, existed as a single unit, in a single stroke of the heart - is this not happiness? And although my restless crumb did not give a moment's rest, I occasionally still allowed myself to some simple pleasures. Fits and starts reading favorite books, on walks he studied magazine, "My child", and in the evening with joy watching the domestic series. And while one day before the pain was similar to the other, I was happy all the two-year maternity leave, because they held it together with his baby.
Board of Psychologist:
Maternity radically changing the lives of women as physically and psychologically. Like everything in life, get used to it. Maternal instinct is so powerful that in principle it is easy to do. But sometimes even the approximate mothers psychological breakdowns occur, when life begins to seem dull and monotonous. Do not blame yourself for it, you just need a little relaxation, a change of scenery. Suffice going to a movie or two-hour Slumber Party in a cafe and you're ready to honorably perform maternal duties for many months.
- To involve parental grandparents or the father. Turn over your tithe of the care at least once a week. And yourself go to her friend, in shops or beauty salon, where getting the most positive emotions.
- Nothing terrible will happen if one time you miss a walk or not iron nappies, but instead of sleeping baby read a book, watch a movie, chatting on the phone;
- When the same becomes completely unbearable, you can suggest them to use one method. Imagine that tomorrow you're going on a long trip and this is the last day that you spend with your child. You'll see, as a "sparkle" your feelings and will power to communicate and joy.
Perpetual servitude
Of all maternal duties hardest for me was walking. As a conscientious mom, I was walking in any weather, at least four hours a day. And if the first six months, while the fresh air, my miracle rhythmically slept in the stroller, it was easy, then a seven-month stay on the street turned into a heavy duty. First steps daughters spoke of severe pain in my lower back, and her desire for independence required constant attention. Minutes dragged on for a long time, and it seemed that the required hours not ever run out.
Salvation from boring duties came unexpectedly in the face of two such self-sacrificing mothers. We could not meet, as they were the only ones in the snow and rain pulled their children for a walk. Having each other, we have become both easier and more fun. We invented new routes and find topics for conversation, shared experiences and enjoyed communicating to their children. Looking back on the stage, I definitely understand that without the support of new friends I would not have withstood this onerous duty - to walk with your child.
Board of Psychologist:
What with the baby should be walking every day, despite the weather conditions, quite correctly. Walking not only strengthens the immune system of the child, but also contribute to its development. As the scope of practice, the lag in development is often a consequence of the lack of staying on the street. If you seriously give this povinnos
- Share it with the child's father or relatives;
- Immediately decide for yourself that no household duties are not worth the health of your baby, and without excuses, go for a walk;
- Note, regular walks are useful not only your child, but you;
- Make this process interesting for the baby and for themselves;
- And, of course, find like-minded people. This is not difficult because the mother can easily go to the contact with each other.
Minutes panic
Even more heavily than walking, the nervous system has placed concern for the health of my girls. I first knew the joy of motherhood, and as it turned out, knew nothing about children. Worry about whether it is developing, driven to a frenzy. Strangely shook his head, is pressing legs, slowly gaining weight, throws back his head, and, "My God, there snot. The elderly pediatrician, having spent all her strength to rise to the desired floor, hurriedly gave advice, and leaving me in more confusion, quickly removed.
I he studied literature, "sat" on the Internet, listening to conflicting advice of relatives and friends. Conclusion ripe unequivocal: we need a doctor. After a large-scale monitoring, defined with the nomination. "You are the best pediatrician city - I began with compliments - please help me. The doctor responded. After examining the child, slowly and thoroughly answered all my questions politely rejected the envelope. Still, there are good doctors in this country! Above all, they nay
Board of Psychologist:
First motherhood is accompanied by increased nervousness, which is understandable (you still know so little about children) and eventually passes (typing test). Everything that concerns the health of the child requires special attention. Do not rely on the issue in the literature (it sometimes gives diametrically conflicting advice) for the same reasons should not follow the advice of relatives and friends (something that has helped their child, you can not quite come up or be detrimental). Rely on expert evidence:
- Looking for a doctor. The best way to find a good healer - to interview patients who have spoken to. Do not rely on guess-work. Inquiring, "sniff out" - it's worth it;
- If you have doubts about the diagnosis or prescribed treatment, do not hesitate to seek the advice of another specialist. Doctors themselves, to avoid errors, advised to consult with at least three specialists. Expensive, of course, and takes a lot of time, but still it comes to the health of your child.
- Do not hesitate to ask your doctor in detail about the causes of disease, administration, side effects, the possible consequences. If Aesculapius does not bother to answer your questions, change it immediately.
After two years in incessant cares and worries, I found it very difficult to switch "back". Give the child in kindergarten and go to work was no less difficult than getting used to the regime around the clock care for him. But during maternity leave, I just learned that there is no more hard work than motherhood, and there is no happier duties than be a mom
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If the husband is a tyrant: tolerate or fight?
Women often suffer beatings of her husband, believing that the situation can change. Vain! Domashny sadist can rein.
Domestic violence can be divided into three types: moral, psycho-physical and physical.
Moral torture is that the sadist always insult a woman suppresses her will in an effort to completely subjugate and destroy it as a person.
Psycho-physical violence - when it is added to the insults and physical abuse.
The physical torture of the most insidious: the husband without cause, "without warning" brutally beat his wife. And this happens not once, not twice, but occurs systematically. Such a person is likely mentally inadequate, and he needed treatment.
I teach life
Men who are mentally harass their wives, usually justified by the fact that they want them well - and blamed them exclusively for educational purposes. In fact, they feel a sense of satisfaction from the fact that causes another pain.
Who is the sadistic? Usually these are people who are afraid of society. This primitive, angry, envious or arrogant person. Society, as a rule, such rejection, and rather harshly. Insult to the whole world for that goes to the repressed anger that the sadist trying to vent on someone. Because outside of the house a man cowardly attack must take on his wife and children.
To delay the weak
During his wife's mental and physical torture of the male include animal instincts. This type of sadist enjoys watching the suffering of his victim.
It is noticed that the men-only environment he can not defend its interests, he quickly folded. Perhaps as a child he was beaten with parents. And now this man is asserting itself on the weak.
Beau did not hesitate
If a man beats his wife without words, without explanation, it is likely to have already been degraded. It is governed by instinct alone, and nothing more. It is a severe mental illness, and stay close to such a man is dangerous. He can easily hit his wife with his fist, knife, ax. These individuals in the future can be dangerous for his family and for society as a whole.
A man who drinks
Tyrant person often does the abuse of alcohol. A man who regularly drinks are not able to account to their actions. Culture, self-esteem he had lost, there are only primitive reflexes.
Quite often you can hear from women: "Before her husband was a changed man - gentle, considerate, calm. And now - just a monster! "But the most interesting, many wives believe that blame vodka, but not the one who drinks and then lash out. Men are happy to use it: 'I do not remember, he was drunk. " As if that justifies his outrageous behavior. Patience wives and impunity sadistic provokes him to further violence.
Alcohol, as a rule, destroys the man's sexual desire. And it - an occasion for jealousy: "If the wife is not with me, then with someone else." And the fantasy that she and her lover can laugh at him, bring him into a frenzy. Convince jealous, to prove that it is not so - it is impossible.
Why did they suffer?
Well, what do women want? Why are they not part with a man who mentally and physically destroy them?
First, married to a sadistic go girls with certain traits and specific family history. If a child little girl saw her father insulted her mother, and she puts up with humiliation, it makes for a conclusion: obedience and humility - good traits. And in order to show them, you need a male aggressor. Such girls tend to choose their husbands in a nice, arrogant, cruel kids.
Secondly, the destruction of the individual women are often invisible to her. In the early years of physical abuse may not appear. But her husband is able to humiliate his wife in the presence of friends or relatives in the circle. The woman still thinks she can control the situation: the misbehavior of his righteous justify his failures, bad mood, stress. In fact, everything is different: the husband knows he is doing. He already got a taste: started to enjoy the consciousness of his power.
Now the tyrant can not leave his wife without money, to forbid her from seeing friends or relatives. Depriving it of its "support group" and knowing that she never complains, he begins to lash out.
At this stage, the woman can still get away from him.
But if it does not, the next will begin an irreversible destruction of her identity. Sadist's not only beating and insulting its prey. Supposedly "coming to his senses, he begins to ask for forgiveness, showering his wife with expensive gifts, and swears that it was the last time.
A woman forgives her husband, but is a bit of time, and all repeats. Since beating alternate with periods of reconciliation, she begins to think that the whole thing ... in itself. It is so bad that "bring" him. Targeting each time becoming more and more sophisticated. And, not finding a way out of the vicious circle, some victims commit suicide or ... kill wife, then sentenced by a court are sent to prison.
Okmotu in Tirana
All home sadists fear of publicity and a specific human intervention from the outside. Remember: in public, and especially in the men's companies, such person - meek as a lamb. Therefore, never hide his misfortune, not confined to himself.
Notify parents of her husband, his relatives and friends about how he behaves with you. Many of his friends can not even guess at his sadistic.
Connect your parents, sisters and brothers. Tell them frankly about the inhuman behavior of her husband, let him shame. The brothers can talk to him purely as a man, a warning.
Refer to the center of psychological assistance, please ask to help you in this situation.
Go to a local policeman, write a request to look into the situation. Methods of influencing the home sadistic police have enough. For example, the district may wear out his daily calls to the department or regular visits to you in a flat at 22.00 with a half-hour educational talk. If the husband threatened to kill, call up the police.
The most important thing - do not give the tyrant rest. Let knows what "gay" life is waiting for him every time, after he aim it at you.
Or maybe he is sick? However, all these methods are valid only if the domestic tyrant has no mental illness. So go to a mental hospital, tell the doctor about the behavior of her husband, talk about how to behave with him. An experienced psychiatrist, even on individual manifestations may suggest the diagnosis. Some diseases are dangerous for others, and for the patient himself (he can turn to anger arose against him and commit suicide). Particularly exacerbated by the influence of alcohol or drugs.
If the doctor suspects have your husband's mental illness, try to persuade him to undergo treatment. And if you do not agree, then the next attack of aggression immediately call the emergency psychiatric care.
The question arises: parting with such a man inevitably? If in spite of medical treatment can not guarantee the absence of outbreaks of rage at your spouse, then the best thing you can do for yourself is to get away from him. No benefits will not replace the most valuable - their lives and well-being and health of your children.
"Beacons" sadistic
The reasons for a person having sadistic tendencies, a lot. This genetic predisposition, and the brutal upbringing in the family, and drug addiction and alcoholism. But perhaps the main factor - this character. And it manifests itself in the first days of their acquaintance. Knowing these "beacons", you can determine whether you will become a new friend home tyrant.
He begins to control you, as a child: "With friends are not met. Do not you dare dye and do not talk to men, even with colleagues, "" Why, when I called you, you did not answer? "," I have to know at any moment, where you are! "," I do not like your friends! " "I do not like your parents!". He does not give you to express your opinion, cries, does not leave you for a minute.
Another indicator of a troubled state of mind this man is his negative view of children, animals and the elderly. You must alert the statements: "Everything - the bastards!", "No Country for Old time at the cemetery," "Children of annoy me," All the dogs would be shot! "
Note whether this person has a sense of humor. Is it just to laugh at himself, over his blunders? Primitive mind is not characteristic. Such a person does not know any jokes or laugh at the jokes of others.
And finally - the existence of intelligence. If the vocabulary of human meager, no hobbies, but only a deep resentment of everyone and everything, the family union with him will not be easy.
What? If you find yourself in his new acquaintance, some of these features, run away as far as possible. Do not expect that your boundless love can change it. Rather, he overhauls you. After a year of marriage a man will break your will, and you will already be difficult to make decisive action - to get away from him.
Thoughts that turn the woman into a victim:
"I could not live alone, I do not have a shelter or profession."
"Such is our women's share: we must learn to endure.
"Nobody must know what is happening in our family. If the husband will know that I told someone about his behavior, he's rage.
"Children should be pope. Even a bad father is better than none.
"Of course, in many ways my own fault. Should not have ... "
"We need to find this behavior to her husband did not arise occasions for irritation.
Domestic violence can be divided into three types: moral, psycho-physical and physical.
Moral torture is that the sadist always insult a woman suppresses her will in an effort to completely subjugate and destroy it as a person.
Psycho-physical violence - when it is added to the insults and physical abuse.
The physical torture of the most insidious: the husband without cause, "without warning" brutally beat his wife. And this happens not once, not twice, but occurs systematically. Such a person is likely mentally inadequate, and he needed treatment.
I teach life
Men who are mentally harass their wives, usually justified by the fact that they want them well - and blamed them exclusively for educational purposes. In fact, they feel a sense of satisfaction from the fact that causes another pain.
Who is the sadistic? Usually these are people who are afraid of society. This primitive, angry, envious or arrogant person. Society, as a rule, such rejection, and rather harshly. Insult to the whole world for that goes to the repressed anger that the sadist trying to vent on someone. Because outside of the house a man cowardly attack must take on his wife and children.
To delay the weak
During his wife's mental and physical torture of the male include animal instincts. This type of sadist enjoys watching the suffering of his victim.
It is noticed that the men-only environment he can not defend its interests, he quickly folded. Perhaps as a child he was beaten with parents. And now this man is asserting itself on the weak.
Beau did not hesitate
If a man beats his wife without words, without explanation, it is likely to have already been degraded. It is governed by instinct alone, and nothing more. It is a severe mental illness, and stay close to such a man is dangerous. He can easily hit his wife with his fist, knife, ax. These individuals in the future can be dangerous for his family and for society as a whole.
A man who drinks
Tyrant person often does the abuse of alcohol. A man who regularly drinks are not able to account to their actions. Culture, self-esteem he had lost, there are only primitive reflexes.
Quite often you can hear from women: "Before her husband was a changed man - gentle, considerate, calm. And now - just a monster! "But the most interesting, many wives believe that blame vodka, but not the one who drinks and then lash out. Men are happy to use it: 'I do not remember, he was drunk. " As if that justifies his outrageous behavior. Patience wives and impunity sadistic provokes him to further violence.
Alcohol, as a rule, destroys the man's sexual desire. And it - an occasion for jealousy: "If the wife is not with me, then with someone else." And the fantasy that she and her lover can laugh at him, bring him into a frenzy. Convince jealous, to prove that it is not so - it is impossible.
Why did they suffer?
Well, what do women want? Why are they not part with a man who mentally and physically destroy them?
First, married to a sadistic go girls with certain traits and specific family history. If a child little girl saw her father insulted her mother, and she puts up with humiliation, it makes for a conclusion: obedience and humility - good traits. And in order to show them, you need a male aggressor. Such girls tend to choose their husbands in a nice, arrogant, cruel kids.
Secondly, the destruction of the individual women are often invisible to her. In the early years of physical abuse may not appear. But her husband is able to humiliate his wife in the presence of friends or relatives in the circle. The woman still thinks she can control the situation: the misbehavior of his righteous justify his failures, bad mood, stress. In fact, everything is different: the husband knows he is doing. He already got a taste: started to enjoy the consciousness of his power.
Now the tyrant can not leave his wife without money, to forbid her from seeing friends or relatives. Depriving it of its "support group" and knowing that she never complains, he begins to lash out.
At this stage, the woman can still get away from him.
But if it does not, the next will begin an irreversible destruction of her identity. Sadist's not only beating and insulting its prey. Supposedly "coming to his senses, he begins to ask for forgiveness, showering his wife with expensive gifts, and swears that it was the last time.
A woman forgives her husband, but is a bit of time, and all repeats. Since beating alternate with periods of reconciliation, she begins to think that the whole thing ... in itself. It is so bad that "bring" him. Targeting each time becoming more and more sophisticated. And, not finding a way out of the vicious circle, some victims commit suicide or ... kill wife, then sentenced by a court are sent to prison.
Okmotu in Tirana
All home sadists fear of publicity and a specific human intervention from the outside. Remember: in public, and especially in the men's companies, such person - meek as a lamb. Therefore, never hide his misfortune, not confined to himself.
Notify parents of her husband, his relatives and friends about how he behaves with you. Many of his friends can not even guess at his sadistic.
Connect your parents, sisters and brothers. Tell them frankly about the inhuman behavior of her husband, let him shame. The brothers can talk to him purely as a man, a warning.
Refer to the center of psychological assistance, please ask to help you in this situation.
Go to a local policeman, write a request to look into the situation. Methods of influencing the home sadistic police have enough. For example, the district may wear out his daily calls to the department or regular visits to you in a flat at 22.00 with a half-hour educational talk. If the husband threatened to kill, call up the police.
The most important thing - do not give the tyrant rest. Let knows what "gay" life is waiting for him every time, after he aim it at you.
Or maybe he is sick? However, all these methods are valid only if the domestic tyrant has no mental illness. So go to a mental hospital, tell the doctor about the behavior of her husband, talk about how to behave with him. An experienced psychiatrist, even on individual manifestations may suggest the diagnosis. Some diseases are dangerous for others, and for the patient himself (he can turn to anger arose against him and commit suicide). Particularly exacerbated by the influence of alcohol or drugs.
If the doctor suspects have your husband's mental illness, try to persuade him to undergo treatment. And if you do not agree, then the next attack of aggression immediately call the emergency psychiatric care.
The question arises: parting with such a man inevitably? If in spite of medical treatment can not guarantee the absence of outbreaks of rage at your spouse, then the best thing you can do for yourself is to get away from him. No benefits will not replace the most valuable - their lives and well-being and health of your children.
"Beacons" sadistic
The reasons for a person having sadistic tendencies, a lot. This genetic predisposition, and the brutal upbringing in the family, and drug addiction and alcoholism. But perhaps the main factor - this character. And it manifests itself in the first days of their acquaintance. Knowing these "beacons", you can determine whether you will become a new friend home tyrant.
He begins to control you, as a child: "With friends are not met. Do not you dare dye and do not talk to men, even with colleagues, "" Why, when I called you, you did not answer? "," I have to know at any moment, where you are! "," I do not like your friends! " "I do not like your parents!". He does not give you to express your opinion, cries, does not leave you for a minute.
Another indicator of a troubled state of mind this man is his negative view of children, animals and the elderly. You must alert the statements: "Everything - the bastards!", "No Country for Old time at the cemetery," "Children of annoy me," All the dogs would be shot! "
Note whether this person has a sense of humor. Is it just to laugh at himself, over his blunders? Primitive mind is not characteristic. Such a person does not know any jokes or laugh at the jokes of others.
And finally - the existence of intelligence. If the vocabulary of human meager, no hobbies, but only a deep resentment of everyone and everything, the family union with him will not be easy.
What? If you find yourself in his new acquaintance, some of these features, run away as far as possible. Do not expect that your boundless love can change it. Rather, he overhauls you. After a year of marriage a man will break your will, and you will already be difficult to make decisive action - to get away from him.
Thoughts that turn the woman into a victim:
"I could not live alone, I do not have a shelter or profession."
"Such is our women's share: we must learn to endure.
"Nobody must know what is happening in our family. If the husband will know that I told someone about his behavior, he's rage.
"Children should be pope. Even a bad father is better than none.
"Of course, in many ways my own fault. Should not have ... "
"We need to find this behavior to her husband did not arise occasions for irritation.
The main reasons for adultery
There are 17 basic reasons why people change their spouses, and they did not always make it out of selfishness or immoral motives, according to a new book by the famous American psychotherapist. Book Mira Kirshenbaum, clinical director of the Institute of Chestnut Hill in Boston, Massachusetts, obviously cause a lot of criticism: it argues that many of the traitors - good, good people, and their relationship on the side can help a marriage.
Furthermore, the author advises husbands and wives, who are lovers, not to admit their sins, because the truth can do more harm than its concealment. In addition, she argues that sometimes divorce - not a bad thing.
Kirshenbaum therapist working for the past 30 years, it is well known in the U.S. as a writer and presenter. She was born in Uzbekistan, her parents survived the Holocaust. At the age of four years with her family, she moved to the United States. Now it already has grandchildren.
So what are the 17 reasons exist to change the spouse? Below is a list of the new book by Mira Kirshenbaum - "When good people change" - with author's comments about what it means.
Trying to find a
"For a long time in your life there are forces that prevent you be yourself, express yourself," - writes Kirshenbaum.
"Treason - the best way to understand how to be who you really are." Husband of Virginia Woolf, Leonard Woolf, by popular opinion, it was rather a defender, not a lover. So she came into contact with hot Stranded Sakwa-West - these relationships form the basis for her novel "Orlando".
Random link
"You're not going to do ... but they were in the wrong place at the wrong time", - writes Kirshenbaum.
The poet TS Eliot married Vivien Heywood few weeks after the acquaintance. Later, he admitted: "The marriage did not bring her happiness. To me he brought a state of mind, which was born out of" The Waste Land. "Nevertheless, she was not going to betray her husband so quickly. But it so happened that a number was Bertrand Russell.
Sexual Panic
"You feel that your sexual power fade, starting to panic and start a lover, to show that you did not become weaker in bed" - explains the author.
John Prescott made a great career, grown from a steward on the sea-liner to a vice-premier, but have not outlived inferiority complex. When the policy was in her sixties, he seduced his secretary Tracey Temple, which was at 26 under.
Let's kill ratio (and again revive them)
"The idea is that of betrayal becomes known, and it will strike a blow to marriage, which would either destroy it or make stronger."
As soon as Napoleon went to war, leaving his wife Josephine, as rumors that she is unfaithful. After Napoleon returned to Paris, she will not once it has not changed.
Crisis marriage
Kirshenbaum writes: "If you do not give each other enough time and attention, the marriage comes to a standstill or if it appears a lot of problems, so ... you zavodite relations on the side."
David and Victoria Beckham have made reasonable efforts to stay together. Many women would gladly have spent the night with the famous footballer, and one or two even claim that slept with him. "Nobody said that the marriage would be easy" - recognizes Victoria.
Sell yourself at a higher price
"Your life goes on, and the husband behind, - writes Kirshenbaum. - With the help of an extramarital affair, you want to be with someone who you think is better meets your position."
Horatio Nelson was a young and an unknown sailor, when met with the widow Fanny Nisbet, who has already had a son, and married her. After 11 years, in 1798, he became a national hero by winning the Battle of the Nile, and began an affair with Lady Emma Hamilton. Their relationship became public scandal scale, and the child's birth was kept secret.
The desire to heat up a marriage
"Subconsciously, you hope that she treason or that of her husband finds out, will make your relationship more passionate."
In 1907, the wife of U.S. President Woodrow Wilson, Ellen, depressed, because Wilson met Mary Hulbert. Did they have a novel - a controversial issue, but their friendship has caused Ellen pain. Then the president introduced the women, they went together to shop, and then returned to the Wilson family.
I just need an excuse
"Let it not fair, but you have so much work that you are a betrayal - the best way to get a bit of fun" - writes Kirshenbaum.
Poor Monica Lewinsky is not a lifetime get rid of the consequences of mistakes she made at age 21 during an internship at the White House. It was the last of many women who reward Bill Clinton for his hard work. "He talked about it as though I own all of everything offered is appropriate so take it." Similarly, I "Swedish table" and he just could not resist the dessert, "- she says in her book about the relationship with the president (the real author of the book -- Andrew Morton).
Escape
Kirshenbaum writes: "You want to divorce, but are afraid to simply walk away, and therefore expect that cheating will put an end to all - or you will drive a spouse or lover will give you the courage to leave."
"In this marriage were three of us" - complained about Princess Diana. And it really was. Prince Charles, it seems, married her a sense of duty, not out of love. In a telephone conversation with Camilla Parker-Bowles (if it still bore that name), which was recorded and made public by some unknown well-wishers, he said: "The problem is that I want you - several times a week ... Oh, Lord how nice it would be to live in your pants. So it would be much easier. "
What if
"With the help of betrayal you are trying to verify what would understand if you can get from someone else what you are missing in the marriage. And if so, is it a big difference as you think," - wrote Kirshenbaum.
Ryan Phillippe and Abbie Cornish met on the set of blockbuster on Iraq War under duress ", and soon their professional collaboration developed into a novel. Tabloids immediately began what the girl looks like a rejuvenated Reese Witherspoon, wife of Phillip, who lives separately from him. The marriage ended in divorce. Actor is not the only one who has found solace in the arms of a woman who resembles his first love.
The desire to escape
"Things are going bad, you're upset, confused life, and with the help of treason trying to distract from all these difficulties, creating a sort of oasis of love."
David Lloyd George learned to create a perfect romantic oasis, when it rejected a modest life in Wales and came into the world of big politics. His main love was Frances Stevenson, "my dear little cat," which became his second wife.
Surrogate vehicle
"Do you need some help: for example, you want to raise self-esteem. And the attitude on the side give you the opportunity," - the book says.
The Austrian writer Leopold von Sacher-Masoch was in a boring marriage, which did not correspond to his unusual emotional needs, so he came into contact with his "mistress Fanny Pistor, Bogdanova. For six months he remained her slave on the condition that the woman would be as often as possible to wear fur, especially when going to wield a whip. Hence the term "masochist".
Can I please?
"You get older, your marriage reaches an impasse, and you are thinking about how can there still someone please, can I fall in love with you, if you can maintain a passionate relationship," - wrote Kirshenbaum.
In 1918, Picasso married Olga Khokhlova, and technically they were still married, when in 1955 she died. But this did not prevent him change. He had two children by Françoise Gilot, who left him in 1953, when the artist was 71 years. As shown by his paintings, Picasso was afraid that was a terrible old man. Nevertheless, he began an affair with a 24-year-old Geneviève Laporte - already in old age, she earned a fortune through his portraits by Picasso.
The desire to gain experience, which was not
"You were not too many partners before marriage, and you feel that you have missed an important experience for themselves", - explains Kirshenbaum.
In 1984, newly elected to Parliament from the Conservatives Edwina Currie began an affair with John Major, who at that time was the organizer of the parliamentary party. Their relationship lasted four years, but that was at the Major's wife, while Curry - husband. "Politicians appreciate each other's tricks," - explains Curry.
Revenge
"You're angry at the husband for pain and start relationships, to take revenge, even if the spouse never learns about your treason," - says Kirshenbaum.
When during a military campaign against Robert the Bruce case, the British have gone bad, King Edward II fled, leaving his wife - Queen Isabella, the daughter of the King of France - and she barely escaped being taken prisoner by the Scots. However, stronger than she is angered that the spouse had a male lover. So she began an affair with Robert Mortimer, gathered an army and overthrew the king from the throne.
Midlife crisis
"It's not often, because this mid-life crisis is also rare - writes Kirshenbaum. - Modified, which explains why such a crisis, usually can be attributed to other causes, such as" surrogate means "or" marriage crisis ".
John Profumo was elected to parliament in 25 years and became the youngest Conservative MPs, who dismissed the Neville Chamberlain. However, the 46 years he was still a middling politician, and it was then became acquainted with 20-year-old Christine Keeler. Profumo passionate relationship with the girl lasted only a few weeks, but unfortunately for him, she was unable to keep the incident secret.
Unrealized needs
"Despite the fact that you have certain requests, your partner does not fulfill them. With regard to the side you are trying to implement them" - indicates Kirshenbaum.
Catherine the Great was an innocent German princess when she was sent to Russia, where he was married to Grand Duke Peter, heir to the throne. He was a monstrous husband and a terrible king. And she loved sex and wanted to give birth to an heir. After the murder of Peter she had countless lovers. The most famous of them was Grigori Potemkin, who is used to say, could boast not only a great mind.
Furthermore, the author advises husbands and wives, who are lovers, not to admit their sins, because the truth can do more harm than its concealment. In addition, she argues that sometimes divorce - not a bad thing.
Kirshenbaum therapist working for the past 30 years, it is well known in the U.S. as a writer and presenter. She was born in Uzbekistan, her parents survived the Holocaust. At the age of four years with her family, she moved to the United States. Now it already has grandchildren.
So what are the 17 reasons exist to change the spouse? Below is a list of the new book by Mira Kirshenbaum - "When good people change" - with author's comments about what it means.
Trying to find a
"For a long time in your life there are forces that prevent you be yourself, express yourself," - writes Kirshenbaum.
"Treason - the best way to understand how to be who you really are." Husband of Virginia Woolf, Leonard Woolf, by popular opinion, it was rather a defender, not a lover. So she came into contact with hot Stranded Sakwa-West - these relationships form the basis for her novel "Orlando".
Random link
"You're not going to do ... but they were in the wrong place at the wrong time", - writes Kirshenbaum.
The poet TS Eliot married Vivien Heywood few weeks after the acquaintance. Later, he admitted: "The marriage did not bring her happiness. To me he brought a state of mind, which was born out of" The Waste Land. "Nevertheless, she was not going to betray her husband so quickly. But it so happened that a number was Bertrand Russell.
Sexual Panic
"You feel that your sexual power fade, starting to panic and start a lover, to show that you did not become weaker in bed" - explains the author.
John Prescott made a great career, grown from a steward on the sea-liner to a vice-premier, but have not outlived inferiority complex. When the policy was in her sixties, he seduced his secretary Tracey Temple, which was at 26 under.
Let's kill ratio (and again revive them)
"The idea is that of betrayal becomes known, and it will strike a blow to marriage, which would either destroy it or make stronger."
As soon as Napoleon went to war, leaving his wife Josephine, as rumors that she is unfaithful. After Napoleon returned to Paris, she will not once it has not changed.
Crisis marriage
Kirshenbaum writes: "If you do not give each other enough time and attention, the marriage comes to a standstill or if it appears a lot of problems, so ... you zavodite relations on the side."
David and Victoria Beckham have made reasonable efforts to stay together. Many women would gladly have spent the night with the famous footballer, and one or two even claim that slept with him. "Nobody said that the marriage would be easy" - recognizes Victoria.
Sell yourself at a higher price
"Your life goes on, and the husband behind, - writes Kirshenbaum. - With the help of an extramarital affair, you want to be with someone who you think is better meets your position."
Horatio Nelson was a young and an unknown sailor, when met with the widow Fanny Nisbet, who has already had a son, and married her. After 11 years, in 1798, he became a national hero by winning the Battle of the Nile, and began an affair with Lady Emma Hamilton. Their relationship became public scandal scale, and the child's birth was kept secret.
The desire to heat up a marriage
"Subconsciously, you hope that she treason or that of her husband finds out, will make your relationship more passionate."
In 1907, the wife of U.S. President Woodrow Wilson, Ellen, depressed, because Wilson met Mary Hulbert. Did they have a novel - a controversial issue, but their friendship has caused Ellen pain. Then the president introduced the women, they went together to shop, and then returned to the Wilson family.
I just need an excuse
"Let it not fair, but you have so much work that you are a betrayal - the best way to get a bit of fun" - writes Kirshenbaum.
Poor Monica Lewinsky is not a lifetime get rid of the consequences of mistakes she made at age 21 during an internship at the White House. It was the last of many women who reward Bill Clinton for his hard work. "He talked about it as though I own all of everything offered is appropriate so take it." Similarly, I "Swedish table" and he just could not resist the dessert, "- she says in her book about the relationship with the president (the real author of the book -- Andrew Morton).
Escape
Kirshenbaum writes: "You want to divorce, but are afraid to simply walk away, and therefore expect that cheating will put an end to all - or you will drive a spouse or lover will give you the courage to leave."
"In this marriage were three of us" - complained about Princess Diana. And it really was. Prince Charles, it seems, married her a sense of duty, not out of love. In a telephone conversation with Camilla Parker-Bowles (if it still bore that name), which was recorded and made public by some unknown well-wishers, he said: "The problem is that I want you - several times a week ... Oh, Lord how nice it would be to live in your pants. So it would be much easier. "
What if
"With the help of betrayal you are trying to verify what would understand if you can get from someone else what you are missing in the marriage. And if so, is it a big difference as you think," - wrote Kirshenbaum.
Ryan Phillippe and Abbie Cornish met on the set of blockbuster on Iraq War under duress ", and soon their professional collaboration developed into a novel. Tabloids immediately began what the girl looks like a rejuvenated Reese Witherspoon, wife of Phillip, who lives separately from him. The marriage ended in divorce. Actor is not the only one who has found solace in the arms of a woman who resembles his first love.
The desire to escape
"Things are going bad, you're upset, confused life, and with the help of treason trying to distract from all these difficulties, creating a sort of oasis of love."
David Lloyd George learned to create a perfect romantic oasis, when it rejected a modest life in Wales and came into the world of big politics. His main love was Frances Stevenson, "my dear little cat," which became his second wife.
Surrogate vehicle
"Do you need some help: for example, you want to raise self-esteem. And the attitude on the side give you the opportunity," - the book says.
The Austrian writer Leopold von Sacher-Masoch was in a boring marriage, which did not correspond to his unusual emotional needs, so he came into contact with his "mistress Fanny Pistor, Bogdanova. For six months he remained her slave on the condition that the woman would be as often as possible to wear fur, especially when going to wield a whip. Hence the term "masochist".
Can I please?
"You get older, your marriage reaches an impasse, and you are thinking about how can there still someone please, can I fall in love with you, if you can maintain a passionate relationship," - wrote Kirshenbaum.
In 1918, Picasso married Olga Khokhlova, and technically they were still married, when in 1955 she died. But this did not prevent him change. He had two children by Françoise Gilot, who left him in 1953, when the artist was 71 years. As shown by his paintings, Picasso was afraid that was a terrible old man. Nevertheless, he began an affair with a 24-year-old Geneviève Laporte - already in old age, she earned a fortune through his portraits by Picasso.
The desire to gain experience, which was not
"You were not too many partners before marriage, and you feel that you have missed an important experience for themselves", - explains Kirshenbaum.
In 1984, newly elected to Parliament from the Conservatives Edwina Currie began an affair with John Major, who at that time was the organizer of the parliamentary party. Their relationship lasted four years, but that was at the Major's wife, while Curry - husband. "Politicians appreciate each other's tricks," - explains Curry.
Revenge
"You're angry at the husband for pain and start relationships, to take revenge, even if the spouse never learns about your treason," - says Kirshenbaum.
When during a military campaign against Robert the Bruce case, the British have gone bad, King Edward II fled, leaving his wife - Queen Isabella, the daughter of the King of France - and she barely escaped being taken prisoner by the Scots. However, stronger than she is angered that the spouse had a male lover. So she began an affair with Robert Mortimer, gathered an army and overthrew the king from the throne.
Midlife crisis
"It's not often, because this mid-life crisis is also rare - writes Kirshenbaum. - Modified, which explains why such a crisis, usually can be attributed to other causes, such as" surrogate means "or" marriage crisis ".
John Profumo was elected to parliament in 25 years and became the youngest Conservative MPs, who dismissed the Neville Chamberlain. However, the 46 years he was still a middling politician, and it was then became acquainted with 20-year-old Christine Keeler. Profumo passionate relationship with the girl lasted only a few weeks, but unfortunately for him, she was unable to keep the incident secret.
Unrealized needs
"Despite the fact that you have certain requests, your partner does not fulfill them. With regard to the side you are trying to implement them" - indicates Kirshenbaum.
Catherine the Great was an innocent German princess when she was sent to Russia, where he was married to Grand Duke Peter, heir to the throne. He was a monstrous husband and a terrible king. And she loved sex and wanted to give birth to an heir. After the murder of Peter she had countless lovers. The most famous of them was Grigori Potemkin, who is used to say, could boast not only a great mind.
What begins acquaintance?
What begins acquaintance? Of course, with the phone number. By the way the man writes the number of girls, you can easily determine its nature and even the possibility of long-term relationship. How to find out - here are some interesting observations.
1. People who write number on a scrap of paper, hardly capable of serious relationships. His attitude to you is the same as to this very poor piece of. It is clear that it easily can be lost, and therefore it is also easy to part with you. Thus, it is configured for a wide circle of acquaintances, and not just for you.
2. The girls, who are looking for serious and long-term relationship, like the "classics" - he writes down the phone in the diary, in a strictly space provided. Here he is such a clear, and the life he is likely to clear, step to the right or left, escape is not considered, but they certainly need to know why and on what terms. Potentially a good family man, if not fascinated by the ears work, but, unfortunately, boring for life.
3. There are people who write down the phone on hand. On the one hand, it is not bad, since a person writes something very important, which is well, can not be forgotten. On the other lives, such a record short time, erased the recording, erased the memory. Word, quickly erupt. But quickly extinguished.
4. A person who writes the phone more than once - in a notebook in a pipe, something else - "not to lose" - girls like. They think that she liked him so that he is afraid of losing it. In fact, most often the man did not believe in yourself, sissy or what is called a namby-pamby. He constantly be a reminder that something must be done here and he will always run into your phone and think, what to do. Suitable are only strong girls who are happy with man-podkabluchnik.
5. For this man no matter what to write, it is important - both. In the sense that it is Narcissus, whose mission - to look more attractive. He can write the number in his notebook, and the phone, but tell that this notebook very firm from textured leather. And the phone - very steep and featured model. And if you suddenly refuse to buy your champagne at the bar, it is only because there is no pink, which he tried at the restaurant on the Champs-Elysees in Paris and there he realized that all the other drinks - swill. He believes that an understanding of all major and minor problems as a specialist and will teach everyone. Of course, it is impossible to live with this, but if you blow in his ears a song of their uniqueness, to become his shadow, and if people with money, or known, to get a pass into another world, and there has to seek a normal man.
6. The easiest way to write - a mobile phone - only in sixth place. Just because this man is very difficult to predict. There is a nuance - Try to have it recorded you can not just "Olga", but somehow clarified, it is best to associate with a place or person where you met. So he will not lose you in Olyah three, two and one Olga Olga Stepanovna. But ask if he has a phone, ICQ, and often he uses it - if there is bad, these people usually live in the virtual world and get them out in the real world is difficult.
7. Well, the last place a copy of a man who phone girl ... does not write. He says he'll remember. There are only two options - if you remember, you're really hooked him and he will do everything to make your life bright and interesting. And if you forgot - means you do not need it, and nothing to worry.
1. People who write number on a scrap of paper, hardly capable of serious relationships. His attitude to you is the same as to this very poor piece of. It is clear that it easily can be lost, and therefore it is also easy to part with you. Thus, it is configured for a wide circle of acquaintances, and not just for you.
2. The girls, who are looking for serious and long-term relationship, like the "classics" - he writes down the phone in the diary, in a strictly space provided. Here he is such a clear, and the life he is likely to clear, step to the right or left, escape is not considered, but they certainly need to know why and on what terms. Potentially a good family man, if not fascinated by the ears work, but, unfortunately, boring for life.
3. There are people who write down the phone on hand. On the one hand, it is not bad, since a person writes something very important, which is well, can not be forgotten. On the other lives, such a record short time, erased the recording, erased the memory. Word, quickly erupt. But quickly extinguished.
4. A person who writes the phone more than once - in a notebook in a pipe, something else - "not to lose" - girls like. They think that she liked him so that he is afraid of losing it. In fact, most often the man did not believe in yourself, sissy or what is called a namby-pamby. He constantly be a reminder that something must be done here and he will always run into your phone and think, what to do. Suitable are only strong girls who are happy with man-podkabluchnik.
5. For this man no matter what to write, it is important - both. In the sense that it is Narcissus, whose mission - to look more attractive. He can write the number in his notebook, and the phone, but tell that this notebook very firm from textured leather. And the phone - very steep and featured model. And if you suddenly refuse to buy your champagne at the bar, it is only because there is no pink, which he tried at the restaurant on the Champs-Elysees in Paris and there he realized that all the other drinks - swill. He believes that an understanding of all major and minor problems as a specialist and will teach everyone. Of course, it is impossible to live with this, but if you blow in his ears a song of their uniqueness, to become his shadow, and if people with money, or known, to get a pass into another world, and there has to seek a normal man.
6. The easiest way to write - a mobile phone - only in sixth place. Just because this man is very difficult to predict. There is a nuance - Try to have it recorded you can not just "Olga", but somehow clarified, it is best to associate with a place or person where you met. So he will not lose you in Olyah three, two and one Olga Olga Stepanovna. But ask if he has a phone, ICQ, and often he uses it - if there is bad, these people usually live in the virtual world and get them out in the real world is difficult.
7. Well, the last place a copy of a man who phone girl ... does not write. He says he'll remember. There are only two options - if you remember, you're really hooked him and he will do everything to make your life bright and interesting. And if you forgot - means you do not need it, and nothing to worry.
Saturday, October 31, 2009
To Be - To Be
To clarify, you must immediately define the terminology. To date, medical terminology, a number of changes. The term "erectile dysfunction" includes a full range of "male" issues in any way appear on the fertility and the ability to conduct the sexual act. The concept of "impotence" is increasingly rooted in the past, and less frequently used in the medical community. The word "impotence" is negatively perceived by the patient, it offends the feelings, leads to mental problems in the physician-patient communication. The word "impotent", is increasingly becoming a dirty sentence deters people. Among our patients "impotent" is no more! All fixable, and the doctor must help any man to cope with the current erectile dysfunction!
What is erectile dysfunction
The concept was formed in 1992. Urologists around the world have adopted this term as a designation of a particular condition in which a man is not able to achieve and maintain the necessary erection of the penis, and this interferes with normal sexual intercourse.
It is with regret to admit that this problem is increasingly concerned with the scientific minds of the world of medicine, and she devoted an enormous amount of research and international conferences. The trend towards an increase in patients with such problems is developed parallel to urbanization and technological progress.
If we take the official statistics, only in the United States from problems with erectile dysfunction affects about ten million men. And this is only the data of official statistics, which is based on medical evaluations and some already diagnosed. And what about those men who for personal reasons did not go to the doctor? And if we compare Russia magnitude of the problem?
Chronic stress, poor diet, bad habits (smoking and alcohol) - all risk factors, which inevitably increases the number of patient-doctor urology worldwide. And especially these statistics for the countries in which economic reformation in the moment a serious impact on the overall level and quality of life.
Doctors define five main groups of causes leading to erectile dysfunction:
1. Psychological disorders.
A) Depression
B) Drugs
B) Alcohol
D) Specific psychiatric disorders - fear of sexual impotence, sexual depleted appliances, etc.
2. Endocrine disorders.
A) Reduced function of sexual glands (hypogonadism)
B) Diabetes
B) Prolaktinoma (pituitary tumor)
D) Sarcoidosis with damage to certain areas of the brain
3. Vascular disorders.
A) atherosclerotic lesions of blood vessels in the penis on a background of diabetes, smoking, excess cholesterol in the blood, hypertension.
B) Obstruction of the pelvic arteries as a result of fractures of the pelvis.
B) Violation of the circulation of blood in the vessels of the penis (penile angiospasm), as a result of smoking, intake of some medicines.
D) Violation of the function of the venous system of the penis.
D) A combination of different causes
4. Organic (anatomical) changes in the penis.
A) Peyronie's disease
B) Fibrosis and sclerosis of cavernous tissue of the penis, as a consequence of trauma, injury, inflammatory diseases, etc.
5. Neurological disorders.
A) the cerebral circulation
B) Diseases of the spinal cord
B) Multiple sclerosis
D) Peripheral toxic neuropathy
D) Parkinson's Disease
It is important also to understand that erectile dysfunction is often a consequence of a combination of several causes simultaneously. Scientists believe that about eighty percent of all clinically diagnosed to have a list of reasons for its emergence diabetes, hypertension and smoking. It is also almost always these causes piling psychological disorder. That is why the treatment of erectile dysfunction should be treated comprehensively, and only highly professional urologist andrologist can correctly identify the reasons for assign treatment, to arrange a joint consultation with experts of related professions - a psychologist, endocrinologist, etc.
Men's "failure" in the colloquial language is called "impotence". However, this is not correct from a medical point of view. Impotence - the medical term for the utter impossibility of sexual intercourse. This problem, fortunately, does not occur very often. Recurring problems with erectile dysfunction to classify as erectile dysfunction. And it is these problems, modern medicine has learned a very good deal.
Now let's talk about the treatment
The severity of sex education, or complete lack thereof, complexes and susceptibility to common misconceptions around the world hinders men promptly seek medical attention if you experience problems with erection. Male psyche in the preservation of manhood very vulnerable, that really there to say. It is unlikely that in a normal district hospital doctor can tell the therapist about the presence of intimate problems.
Many simply do not know that modern medicine has leaped forward, and their personal, secret problems with erection, which they are accustomed to with no one to share, and for years to suffer from unresolved problems can be solved within a few weeks.
Any obscheozdoravlivayuschee event, aimed at organizing a healthy lifestyle, in principle, can already be considered as a treatment for erectile dysfunction. Experienced specialists - urologists will not restrict the treatment only medication, but necessarily recommend a range of general measures that will help restore the body as a whole. In combination with other therapeutic measures are often used physiotherapy, hyperbaric oxygen therapy, magneto-and laser therapy.
In some cases, in which erectile dysfunction is caused by organic causes, unfortunately, the patient can not completely rid of problems. But in such difficult cases the physician must be able to improve the quality of the patient's life by appointing him to symptomatic treatment, which is bound to help cope with, if not by disease, with its consequences in the form of erectile dysfunction.
Clinics of male and female health offer their patients a full arsenal of modern medical procedures and complex treatment of erectile dysfunction.
Symptomatic methods used by our experts:
Local negative pressure therapy
This is the easiest way to solve the problem.
Before intercourse the man puts the penis in a special container, which is quite tightly to the body. With the pump in the container creates a negative pressure, which leads to the expansion of the arteries of the penis and fill them with blood. Before removing the penis at its base wears a special bundle, which will prevent the outflow of blood. Thus, an erection is achieved software needed to perform a sexual act.
Pluses technique - its low cost and ease of use. Full indolence and security.
Cons - some inconvenience to use and relatively low quality of erection.
Method of vacuum restore normal blood flow, which is used in clinics - the most effective and healthy way to deal with erectile dysfunction.
In applying this method being established natural, natural blood flow in the cavernous bodies of the penis. Specialized Unit (vibrovakuumny fallostimulyator) allows, with strict accuracy to create negative pressure in the low-frequency vibration mode. This procedure causes a rush of blood in the artery member, and a natural erection. Then the apparatus is in dynamic mode, in which the pressure passages alternate with pauses of normal pressure. The whole procedure lasts about 15 minutes. The active circulation of blood, tissue oxygen saturation faster than any other procedure restores normal erectile function and restores the normal level of metabolic processes.
Usually treatment is 10 sessions. Patients are beginning to observe first morning erection, and then necessarily appear adequate - during sexual intercourse. Positive results of such treatment are observed up to 92% of cases.
Another advantage of this method is the fact that many patients have noted an increase in the size of the penis.
Intrakavernoznoe introduction of drugs
This is the first method, which has also been implemented since 1975. Ever since then, he has considerably improved and excellent technique was proven.
Prior sexual intimacy man alone produces injection of vasodilator drugs in the corpus cavernosum of the penis. This helps to ensure quality and prolonged erection. Of course, drugs are chosen only by a physician and a strictly individual basis.
Pluses of the method - the excellent quality of erection, long time effect, ease of use.
Cons - the injection is not recommended to do more than once a week, often patients do not find the strength of will in order to make a shot into his own penis. Also there is a fairly large number of predicted complications. For example, the first group of drugs in 1975, very often caused the phenomenon of priapism - persistent painful erection. A too-frequent injections can lead to sclerosis of the corpora cavernosa of the penis. However, modern drugs. When skillfully applying them under the supervision of a physician practice is safe.
Intrauretralnoe introduction suppositories
According to this method, a man 20 minutes before close to using a special device to introduce himself into the urethra dose of a drug that provides a quality erection for at least 1 hour. The disadvantages of this method is inconvenient to use and fairly high cost of drugs for intrauretralnogo introduction. One well-known urologist said that this method has made the sexual act is truly "golden".
Medical therapy
There are a number of drugs that increase overall body tone, blood pressure, has a bracing, tonic effect on the body. They contain trace elements, vitamins, which indirectly impact on venous system of the penis.
These drugs include extracts and tinctures Ginseng, Eleutherococcus, levzei, golden root, devil's, aralia, Pantocrinum. Do not rely on quacks who swear that these tools will help you miraculously cured of erectile problems. But to write off their beneficial effects on the body too, not worth it. Their reception, in general, has a healing effect on the body and as an aid in helping a very good primary care.
Only drug that significantly increase the blood flow in the arteries of the penis, which was proved by clinical trials, are yohimbe and the famous Viagra. These drugs are very big step in the treatment of erectile dysfunction, but, unfortunately, yet they can not help all patients (the effectiveness of Viagra, for example, is only 75%).
Vascular surgery on the penis
One of the most common causes of violations of erectile function is a pathological change in blood vessels of the penis. It is in such cases, the patient showed surgical treatment. And to address these issues has developed a number of techniques, well-established in the civilized countries of the world. Surgical intervention is aimed at increasing arterial blood flow and the difficulty of its venous outflow.
PLUS - the only viable solution in many cases.
Cons - 100% guarantee can not give no doctor in the world. There is a risk of damage to the nerves responsible for erectile function.
And yet, millions of men around the world regained erectile function in this way.
Endoprosthesis penis
This method doctors use when other methods of recovery of potency was no longer effective. Special prosthesis installed in place of the corpora cavernosa of the penis, replacing natural. Most simple - semi-rigid rods, causing the penis to a constant state of erection. Unfortunately, the erection in this case is not very high quality, and the life of a man with an erect permanent member has a number of intimate delicate features. The main goal, which has set itself such an operation - to provide the desired erection, and this issue is surgery doable. Modification of such a prosthesis can be a model with a kind of "joints" at the right time leads the penis is erect.
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Modern medicine, however, is not going to stop in the process of development, and one of the most recent advances in science is more complicated technical device implant, allows to approximate the sensation of sex to nature. In these prostheses in place of the cavernous bodies placed special elastic cylinders. A reservoir with fluid, which fills these cylinders, located behind lobkom next to the bladder and a pump-action device "download" is placed in the scrotum. Before intercourse man (or his partner, which allows for very interesting pre-game) stir up the liquid in the cylinders, resulting in an erection is developing good quality. And after intercourse man relieves pressure in the cylinder, and the penis returns to a calm state.
By the disadvantages of such methods should include a sufficiently high cost of prosthetics, the risk of infectious-inflammatory complications after surgery, the possible failure mechanism of the prosthesis. So we should not forget the complete irreversibility of the operation - in fact cavernous body will be completely removed.
Psychological forms of erectile dysfunction
It should be remembered that treatment of these problems should be conducted only by a physician, psychiatrist, sexologist, and specializes in the treatment of psychosexual problems. In the civilized world is natural to turn to after passing a medical sexologist violation of erectile function. Man necessarily need psychological help to ensure that as soon as possible to adapt to the moral and physiological aspects of their new state. But, unfortunately, Russia has not yet reached the level of moral maturity and openness that most people could overcome the constraint set and seek qualified help. Number of competent specialists and sexologists in our country has not much. Therefore experienced specialists - urologists have yet to assume these functions, to study a number of additional courses in psychology and sexology.
Really help the patient in such a situation can only competent urologist who has extensive experience in treating such conditions and help such patients. Remember this if you have to choose a doctor for treatment of erectile dysfunction.
Do not forget the most important!
Every man can not believe that completely immune from failure. The reason for the treatment to the doctor is any, even slight doubt in his own masculine power. If you do not have an erection during masturbation, or not marked morning or night erections, is an occasion to seek assistance from experienced urologists our clinics.
Do not experiment with the duration of sexual intercourse, even if the erectile function allows it. Intercourse lasting more than four hours leads to stagnation of blood in the cavernous bodies of the penis and their further sclerosis - conform to generally accepted norms.
To keep your sex life went on as long as possible and not cause any problems, follow a healthy lifestyle - eliminate nicotine, restrict alcohol consumption. Always consult with your doctor while taking any medication drugs, try to maintain a regular sex life without long pauses and excessive extravagance. Obligatory reason for visiting urologist-andrologist is your diagnosis of diabetes or hypertension.
These simple rules will help you preserve natural sexuality for years. And what if the problems occur, the doctor will be able to choose the method of treatment is necessary in your, case. Sexual life - a source of joy and full view of the world, do not forget about it!
What is erectile dysfunction
The concept was formed in 1992. Urologists around the world have adopted this term as a designation of a particular condition in which a man is not able to achieve and maintain the necessary erection of the penis, and this interferes with normal sexual intercourse.
It is with regret to admit that this problem is increasingly concerned with the scientific minds of the world of medicine, and she devoted an enormous amount of research and international conferences. The trend towards an increase in patients with such problems is developed parallel to urbanization and technological progress.
If we take the official statistics, only in the United States from problems with erectile dysfunction affects about ten million men. And this is only the data of official statistics, which is based on medical evaluations and some already diagnosed. And what about those men who for personal reasons did not go to the doctor? And if we compare Russia magnitude of the problem?
Chronic stress, poor diet, bad habits (smoking and alcohol) - all risk factors, which inevitably increases the number of patient-doctor urology worldwide. And especially these statistics for the countries in which economic reformation in the moment a serious impact on the overall level and quality of life.
Doctors define five main groups of causes leading to erectile dysfunction:
1. Psychological disorders.
A) Depression
B) Drugs
B) Alcohol
D) Specific psychiatric disorders - fear of sexual impotence, sexual depleted appliances, etc.
2. Endocrine disorders.
A) Reduced function of sexual glands (hypogonadism)
B) Diabetes
B) Prolaktinoma (pituitary tumor)
D) Sarcoidosis with damage to certain areas of the brain
3. Vascular disorders.
A) atherosclerotic lesions of blood vessels in the penis on a background of diabetes, smoking, excess cholesterol in the blood, hypertension.
B) Obstruction of the pelvic arteries as a result of fractures of the pelvis.
B) Violation of the circulation of blood in the vessels of the penis (penile angiospasm), as a result of smoking, intake of some medicines.
D) Violation of the function of the venous system of the penis.
D) A combination of different causes
4. Organic (anatomical) changes in the penis.
A) Peyronie's disease
B) Fibrosis and sclerosis of cavernous tissue of the penis, as a consequence of trauma, injury, inflammatory diseases, etc.
5. Neurological disorders.
A) the cerebral circulation
B) Diseases of the spinal cord
B) Multiple sclerosis
D) Peripheral toxic neuropathy
D) Parkinson's Disease
It is important also to understand that erectile dysfunction is often a consequence of a combination of several causes simultaneously. Scientists believe that about eighty percent of all clinically diagnosed to have a list of reasons for its emergence diabetes, hypertension and smoking. It is also almost always these causes piling psychological disorder. That is why the treatment of erectile dysfunction should be treated comprehensively, and only highly professional urologist andrologist can correctly identify the reasons for assign treatment, to arrange a joint consultation with experts of related professions - a psychologist, endocrinologist, etc.
Men's "failure" in the colloquial language is called "impotence". However, this is not correct from a medical point of view. Impotence - the medical term for the utter impossibility of sexual intercourse. This problem, fortunately, does not occur very often. Recurring problems with erectile dysfunction to classify as erectile dysfunction. And it is these problems, modern medicine has learned a very good deal.
Now let's talk about the treatment
The severity of sex education, or complete lack thereof, complexes and susceptibility to common misconceptions around the world hinders men promptly seek medical attention if you experience problems with erection. Male psyche in the preservation of manhood very vulnerable, that really there to say. It is unlikely that in a normal district hospital doctor can tell the therapist about the presence of intimate problems.
Many simply do not know that modern medicine has leaped forward, and their personal, secret problems with erection, which they are accustomed to with no one to share, and for years to suffer from unresolved problems can be solved within a few weeks.
Any obscheozdoravlivayuschee event, aimed at organizing a healthy lifestyle, in principle, can already be considered as a treatment for erectile dysfunction. Experienced specialists - urologists will not restrict the treatment only medication, but necessarily recommend a range of general measures that will help restore the body as a whole. In combination with other therapeutic measures are often used physiotherapy, hyperbaric oxygen therapy, magneto-and laser therapy.
In some cases, in which erectile dysfunction is caused by organic causes, unfortunately, the patient can not completely rid of problems. But in such difficult cases the physician must be able to improve the quality of the patient's life by appointing him to symptomatic treatment, which is bound to help cope with, if not by disease, with its consequences in the form of erectile dysfunction.
Clinics of male and female health offer their patients a full arsenal of modern medical procedures and complex treatment of erectile dysfunction.
Symptomatic methods used by our experts:
Local negative pressure therapy
This is the easiest way to solve the problem.
Before intercourse the man puts the penis in a special container, which is quite tightly to the body. With the pump in the container creates a negative pressure, which leads to the expansion of the arteries of the penis and fill them with blood. Before removing the penis at its base wears a special bundle, which will prevent the outflow of blood. Thus, an erection is achieved software needed to perform a sexual act.
Pluses technique - its low cost and ease of use. Full indolence and security.
Cons - some inconvenience to use and relatively low quality of erection.
Method of vacuum restore normal blood flow, which is used in clinics - the most effective and healthy way to deal with erectile dysfunction.
In applying this method being established natural, natural blood flow in the cavernous bodies of the penis. Specialized Unit (vibrovakuumny fallostimulyator) allows, with strict accuracy to create negative pressure in the low-frequency vibration mode. This procedure causes a rush of blood in the artery member, and a natural erection. Then the apparatus is in dynamic mode, in which the pressure passages alternate with pauses of normal pressure. The whole procedure lasts about 15 minutes. The active circulation of blood, tissue oxygen saturation faster than any other procedure restores normal erectile function and restores the normal level of metabolic processes.
Usually treatment is 10 sessions. Patients are beginning to observe first morning erection, and then necessarily appear adequate - during sexual intercourse. Positive results of such treatment are observed up to 92% of cases.
Another advantage of this method is the fact that many patients have noted an increase in the size of the penis.
Intrakavernoznoe introduction of drugs
This is the first method, which has also been implemented since 1975. Ever since then, he has considerably improved and excellent technique was proven.
Prior sexual intimacy man alone produces injection of vasodilator drugs in the corpus cavernosum of the penis. This helps to ensure quality and prolonged erection. Of course, drugs are chosen only by a physician and a strictly individual basis.
Pluses of the method - the excellent quality of erection, long time effect, ease of use.
Cons - the injection is not recommended to do more than once a week, often patients do not find the strength of will in order to make a shot into his own penis. Also there is a fairly large number of predicted complications. For example, the first group of drugs in 1975, very often caused the phenomenon of priapism - persistent painful erection. A too-frequent injections can lead to sclerosis of the corpora cavernosa of the penis. However, modern drugs. When skillfully applying them under the supervision of a physician practice is safe.
Intrauretralnoe introduction suppositories
According to this method, a man 20 minutes before close to using a special device to introduce himself into the urethra dose of a drug that provides a quality erection for at least 1 hour. The disadvantages of this method is inconvenient to use and fairly high cost of drugs for intrauretralnogo introduction. One well-known urologist said that this method has made the sexual act is truly "golden".
Medical therapy
There are a number of drugs that increase overall body tone, blood pressure, has a bracing, tonic effect on the body. They contain trace elements, vitamins, which indirectly impact on venous system of the penis.
These drugs include extracts and tinctures Ginseng, Eleutherococcus, levzei, golden root, devil's, aralia, Pantocrinum. Do not rely on quacks who swear that these tools will help you miraculously cured of erectile problems. But to write off their beneficial effects on the body too, not worth it. Their reception, in general, has a healing effect on the body and as an aid in helping a very good primary care.
Only drug that significantly increase the blood flow in the arteries of the penis, which was proved by clinical trials, are yohimbe and the famous Viagra. These drugs are very big step in the treatment of erectile dysfunction, but, unfortunately, yet they can not help all patients (the effectiveness of Viagra, for example, is only 75%).
Vascular surgery on the penis
One of the most common causes of violations of erectile function is a pathological change in blood vessels of the penis. It is in such cases, the patient showed surgical treatment. And to address these issues has developed a number of techniques, well-established in the civilized countries of the world. Surgical intervention is aimed at increasing arterial blood flow and the difficulty of its venous outflow.
PLUS - the only viable solution in many cases.
Cons - 100% guarantee can not give no doctor in the world. There is a risk of damage to the nerves responsible for erectile function.
And yet, millions of men around the world regained erectile function in this way.
Endoprosthesis penis
This method doctors use when other methods of recovery of potency was no longer effective. Special prosthesis installed in place of the corpora cavernosa of the penis, replacing natural. Most simple - semi-rigid rods, causing the penis to a constant state of erection. Unfortunately, the erection in this case is not very high quality, and the life of a man with an erect permanent member has a number of intimate delicate features. The main goal, which has set itself such an operation - to provide the desired erection, and this issue is surgery doable. Modification of such a prosthesis can be a model with a kind of "joints" at the right time leads the penis is erect.
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Modern medicine, however, is not going to stop in the process of development, and one of the most recent advances in science is more complicated technical device implant, allows to approximate the sensation of sex to nature. In these prostheses in place of the cavernous bodies placed special elastic cylinders. A reservoir with fluid, which fills these cylinders, located behind lobkom next to the bladder and a pump-action device "download" is placed in the scrotum. Before intercourse man (or his partner, which allows for very interesting pre-game) stir up the liquid in the cylinders, resulting in an erection is developing good quality. And after intercourse man relieves pressure in the cylinder, and the penis returns to a calm state.
By the disadvantages of such methods should include a sufficiently high cost of prosthetics, the risk of infectious-inflammatory complications after surgery, the possible failure mechanism of the prosthesis. So we should not forget the complete irreversibility of the operation - in fact cavernous body will be completely removed.
Psychological forms of erectile dysfunction
It should be remembered that treatment of these problems should be conducted only by a physician, psychiatrist, sexologist, and specializes in the treatment of psychosexual problems. In the civilized world is natural to turn to after passing a medical sexologist violation of erectile function. Man necessarily need psychological help to ensure that as soon as possible to adapt to the moral and physiological aspects of their new state. But, unfortunately, Russia has not yet reached the level of moral maturity and openness that most people could overcome the constraint set and seek qualified help. Number of competent specialists and sexologists in our country has not much. Therefore experienced specialists - urologists have yet to assume these functions, to study a number of additional courses in psychology and sexology.
Really help the patient in such a situation can only competent urologist who has extensive experience in treating such conditions and help such patients. Remember this if you have to choose a doctor for treatment of erectile dysfunction.
Do not forget the most important!
Every man can not believe that completely immune from failure. The reason for the treatment to the doctor is any, even slight doubt in his own masculine power. If you do not have an erection during masturbation, or not marked morning or night erections, is an occasion to seek assistance from experienced urologists our clinics.
Do not experiment with the duration of sexual intercourse, even if the erectile function allows it. Intercourse lasting more than four hours leads to stagnation of blood in the cavernous bodies of the penis and their further sclerosis - conform to generally accepted norms.
To keep your sex life went on as long as possible and not cause any problems, follow a healthy lifestyle - eliminate nicotine, restrict alcohol consumption. Always consult with your doctor while taking any medication drugs, try to maintain a regular sex life without long pauses and excessive extravagance. Obligatory reason for visiting urologist-andrologist is your diagnosis of diabetes or hypertension.
These simple rules will help you preserve natural sexuality for years. And what if the problems occur, the doctor will be able to choose the method of treatment is necessary in your, case. Sexual life - a source of joy and full view of the world, do not forget about it!
Friday, September 18, 2009
What causes obesity?
Hardly anyone seriously believes that the cause of this obesity - only the lack of willpower or laziness prevents man in sports. Although the causes of obesity has not been studied, since the mid 1980's. it is considered a chronic disease, which is based on several factors.
Heredity
Studies have shown that obesity is inherited. If one or both parents are obese, the likelihood of obesity in children increases significantly, because genes determine the different physical characteristics and, to some extent, weight. However, a predisposition to obesity does not mean that man's fate is sealed. Since nature is debatable, if diet and exercise regularly. In some cases, come to the aid of drugs or surgery.
Calorie food
Hot dogs, Big Mac, fries, macaroni and cheese, chips, ice cream - all of these popular dishes are inexpensive, accessible and tasty. Not surprisingly, they are contributing to the obesity epidemic in many countries.
Lifestyles
The risk of obesity increases, if you have a lot of sitting behind a desk or on the couch. Similarly, the risk is higher in the event that fats make up more than 30% of your daily diet. The researchers found that people who devote 20-30 minutes daily of physical activity, less prone to obesity. The best results are obtained by a combination of an active lifestyle and low-calorie diet.
Metabolism
Specifically, the rate of metabolism, or the intensity with which your body uses food comes. With a low metabolic rate the likelihood that excess calories will be stored as body fat increases. In this case, the fight against excess weight will have to make more effort. However, these efforts ultimately may increase your metabolism. Muscle burns more calories than fat tissue, even at rest. Therefore, if reducing consumption of fats and by using weight training to build up muscles, burn calories will be more intense.
Psychological aspects
There are people who tend to overeat (to arrange some kind of food "binges") under conditions of stress or depression. Studies show that over 30% of people suffering from obesity, fall into this category. Psychotherapists confirm that food "binges" really allows you to temporarily remove the stress caused by negative emotions. But then, after overeating, a sense of guilt, shame, disgust and depression begins.
Often, after eating a man decides to end the "binge" and go on a diet. However, the diet is broken, there is a feeling of guilt, then depression, and all this leads to a new booze.
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Heredity
Studies have shown that obesity is inherited. If one or both parents are obese, the likelihood of obesity in children increases significantly, because genes determine the different physical characteristics and, to some extent, weight. However, a predisposition to obesity does not mean that man's fate is sealed. Since nature is debatable, if diet and exercise regularly. In some cases, come to the aid of drugs or surgery.
Calorie food
Hot dogs, Big Mac, fries, macaroni and cheese, chips, ice cream - all of these popular dishes are inexpensive, accessible and tasty. Not surprisingly, they are contributing to the obesity epidemic in many countries.
Lifestyles
The risk of obesity increases, if you have a lot of sitting behind a desk or on the couch. Similarly, the risk is higher in the event that fats make up more than 30% of your daily diet. The researchers found that people who devote 20-30 minutes daily of physical activity, less prone to obesity. The best results are obtained by a combination of an active lifestyle and low-calorie diet.
Metabolism
Specifically, the rate of metabolism, or the intensity with which your body uses food comes. With a low metabolic rate the likelihood that excess calories will be stored as body fat increases. In this case, the fight against excess weight will have to make more effort. However, these efforts ultimately may increase your metabolism. Muscle burns more calories than fat tissue, even at rest. Therefore, if reducing consumption of fats and by using weight training to build up muscles, burn calories will be more intense.
Psychological aspects
There are people who tend to overeat (to arrange some kind of food "binges") under conditions of stress or depression. Studies show that over 30% of people suffering from obesity, fall into this category. Psychotherapists confirm that food "binges" really allows you to temporarily remove the stress caused by negative emotions. But then, after overeating, a sense of guilt, shame, disgust and depression begins.
Often, after eating a man decides to end the "binge" and go on a diet. However, the diet is broken, there is a feeling of guilt, then depression, and all this leads to a new booze.
Rx Michigan
Do not succumb to old age
What comes to mind when you think about old age. Wrinkles? Gray hair? Ailments and diseases? Bleak picture, right?
But even if the body is doomed to grow old, do not think that going to the clinic from doctor to doctor - is inevitable. Genes are only responsible for one third of the problems associated with aging. The rest - the result of your lifestyle and decisions that you take. Do not forget: never too late to make your life more colorful and take the right steps to help you live a maturity as the golden autumn of life, while remaining full of energy and vitality. Here are 10 tips that will teach you well to grow old:
* Practice. Train anyone can, regardless of age and physical condition. Exercise helps maintain a healthy heart, control weight, lower cholesterol and blood pressure. Sports reduce the risk of diabetes, some cancers, strengthen bones and joints, helps get rid of pains in the joints, tone down the symptoms of depression and improve sleep. You do not have to do some complicated exercise. You can simply go to either walk or take a pound dumbbells.
* Give up smoking. Nothing reduces the duration and quality of life, like smoking. Smokers are much more risk of developing cardiovascular disease, stroke and cancer. In addition, they have significantly increased risk of developing fatal lung diseases such as emphysema.
* Include in your diet more fruits and vegetables. This will reduce the likelihood of certain cancers, as well as diverticulosis (disease of the intestines). A diet low in salt and fat also helps reduce blood cholesterol and blood pressure.
* Drink plenty of water. Water is essential for life and chemical processes in your body. Man is not always aware that the body needs fluid, so drink, even if you do not feel particularly thirsty.
* Do not stay long in the sun. A large amount of sunlight increases the risk of eye diseases such as macular degeneration. In addition, the sun's rays cause wrinkles and increase the likelihood of skin cancer. Being in the sun, do not forget hats and sunscreen.
* Maintain mental activity. If you do not use and do not practice mental abilities, they too will fade. Short-term memory deteriorates with age. Therefore, read books, solve puzzles, play games, develop new hobbies.
* Do not abuse alcohol. A large amount of alcohol hurts your liver and other body cells, and accelerates the aging process.
* Maintain friendships and family relationships. This will reduce stress and prevent depression. Studies show that people with good social network is easier to adapt and accept aging more calmly.
* Stop worrying! Studies have shown that centenarians are able to cope with emotional stress. Change your attitude to stress and try to use special techniques to deal with it, such as deep breathing or yoga.
* Take your medicines regularly visit a doctor and follow his instructions. Medicines to lower blood cholesterol levels and blood pressure can reduce the risk of heart disease, heart attack and stroke. Tablets osteoporosis help maintain bone mass and strengthen bones.
* Regularly screened. Check with your doctor how often you need to have medical tests to monitor the level of cholesterol in the blood, pressure, time to detect early signs of diabetes or colon cancer. Women should ensure the absence of diseases such as uterine cancer, osteoporosis and breast cancer. Men - in the absence of prostate or testicular cancer.
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But even if the body is doomed to grow old, do not think that going to the clinic from doctor to doctor - is inevitable. Genes are only responsible for one third of the problems associated with aging. The rest - the result of your lifestyle and decisions that you take. Do not forget: never too late to make your life more colorful and take the right steps to help you live a maturity as the golden autumn of life, while remaining full of energy and vitality. Here are 10 tips that will teach you well to grow old:
* Practice. Train anyone can, regardless of age and physical condition. Exercise helps maintain a healthy heart, control weight, lower cholesterol and blood pressure. Sports reduce the risk of diabetes, some cancers, strengthen bones and joints, helps get rid of pains in the joints, tone down the symptoms of depression and improve sleep. You do not have to do some complicated exercise. You can simply go to either walk or take a pound dumbbells.
* Give up smoking. Nothing reduces the duration and quality of life, like smoking. Smokers are much more risk of developing cardiovascular disease, stroke and cancer. In addition, they have significantly increased risk of developing fatal lung diseases such as emphysema.
* Include in your diet more fruits and vegetables. This will reduce the likelihood of certain cancers, as well as diverticulosis (disease of the intestines). A diet low in salt and fat also helps reduce blood cholesterol and blood pressure.
* Drink plenty of water. Water is essential for life and chemical processes in your body. Man is not always aware that the body needs fluid, so drink, even if you do not feel particularly thirsty.
* Do not stay long in the sun. A large amount of sunlight increases the risk of eye diseases such as macular degeneration. In addition, the sun's rays cause wrinkles and increase the likelihood of skin cancer. Being in the sun, do not forget hats and sunscreen.
* Maintain mental activity. If you do not use and do not practice mental abilities, they too will fade. Short-term memory deteriorates with age. Therefore, read books, solve puzzles, play games, develop new hobbies.
* Do not abuse alcohol. A large amount of alcohol hurts your liver and other body cells, and accelerates the aging process.
* Maintain friendships and family relationships. This will reduce stress and prevent depression. Studies show that people with good social network is easier to adapt and accept aging more calmly.
* Stop worrying! Studies have shown that centenarians are able to cope with emotional stress. Change your attitude to stress and try to use special techniques to deal with it, such as deep breathing or yoga.
* Take your medicines regularly visit a doctor and follow his instructions. Medicines to lower blood cholesterol levels and blood pressure can reduce the risk of heart disease, heart attack and stroke. Tablets osteoporosis help maintain bone mass and strengthen bones.
* Regularly screened. Check with your doctor how often you need to have medical tests to monitor the level of cholesterol in the blood, pressure, time to detect early signs of diabetes or colon cancer. Women should ensure the absence of diseases such as uterine cancer, osteoporosis and breast cancer. Men - in the absence of prostate or testicular cancer.
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A few words about the benefits of daily rest
Everyone at least once in life - during preparation for exams or working in the preparation of the report - felt fatigue. Of course, at this moment you can drink a cup of coffee or a can of energy drink. However, there is a better way to cheer up and recover - some sleep. 20-30 minutes of sleep will improve efficiency, attention and mood, as well as reduce errors and accidents.
Daytime sleep not only helps to work. If it becomes a habit and you're relaxing by day, at least, 3 times a week, he is also a 37% reduction in the risk of heart attacks were fatal. Sleep in the daytime no less important than to eat right, to monitor the level of cholesterol and exercise regularly.
Why are you sleeping?
There are three types of daytime sleep:
* Planning (preparatory) sleep. A man goes to sleep, knowing that would have to stay awake longer than usual. Sleep saves energy and not feel sleepy.
* Son of necessity. Man asleep because of the fact that sudden feeling of sleepiness during work or drive behind the wheel. He realizes that simply can no longer do anything (not just drive the car).
* Son of habit. A man sleeps on a daily basis at the same time.
Retrieve the maximum benefit from an afternoon nap
For daytime sleep had benefited. follows:
* Not sleep too long. 20-30 minutes of sleep cheer for a short time, but not vybyut out of a rut and do not interfere with sleep at night.
* Sleep in a suitable place. This place should be:
o a calm
o Not too cold nor too hot
o dark and protected from noise
* Do not sleep at night. Too late sleep may interfere with sleep at night.
We have an afternoon nap and minuses. Sometimes after waking people feel at ease. This feeling persists from several minutes to an hour. It is difficult to get down to work again.
Yet daytime sleep - a great way to cheer up. So next time you head will tend to the table, and eyes - close by themselves, better search is not a cup of coffee and sofa.
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Daytime sleep not only helps to work. If it becomes a habit and you're relaxing by day, at least, 3 times a week, he is also a 37% reduction in the risk of heart attacks were fatal. Sleep in the daytime no less important than to eat right, to monitor the level of cholesterol and exercise regularly.
Why are you sleeping?
There are three types of daytime sleep:
* Planning (preparatory) sleep. A man goes to sleep, knowing that would have to stay awake longer than usual. Sleep saves energy and not feel sleepy.
* Son of necessity. Man asleep because of the fact that sudden feeling of sleepiness during work or drive behind the wheel. He realizes that simply can no longer do anything (not just drive the car).
* Son of habit. A man sleeps on a daily basis at the same time.
Retrieve the maximum benefit from an afternoon nap
For daytime sleep had benefited. follows:
* Not sleep too long. 20-30 minutes of sleep cheer for a short time, but not vybyut out of a rut and do not interfere with sleep at night.
* Sleep in a suitable place. This place should be:
o a calm
o Not too cold nor too hot
o dark and protected from noise
* Do not sleep at night. Too late sleep may interfere with sleep at night.
We have an afternoon nap and minuses. Sometimes after waking people feel at ease. This feeling persists from several minutes to an hour. It is difficult to get down to work again.
Yet daytime sleep - a great way to cheer up. So next time you head will tend to the table, and eyes - close by themselves, better search is not a cup of coffee and sofa.
Rx North Dakota
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